Dealing With Betrayal

Your going along with your life, feeling like everything is doing pretty good. You have a loving mate and a nice home life and you feel pretty content. Then without any notice at all your whole life is in complete shambles.

You find out which could only by described as one of the most terrible, hurtful embarrassing and possibly the most devastating news any person could hear. Your husband, mate, boyfriend and lover has cheated on you.

Your life in seconds has completely changed forever. Your happy and content home life has been destroyed. You can't think, or eat or sleep. Your work and social life suffer. Your family and friends all think they know what is right for you. Everyone has an opinion on what you should do. People are coming at you from all directions with advice and telling you how to live your life.

This is what happens when a loved one cheats on you. One of the worst things about betrayal is when it happens it seems everyone finds out about it. Naturally they all want to put in their 2cents worth.

What you need to do, is politely but firmly tell everyone to please let you first come to terms to what has happened to your life. Then to please let you decide for yourself what it best for your situation.

It is a terrible thing that has happened, but it doesn't automatically mean you either have to or want to end your relationship. This is hard for our family and friends to understand.

When you have been in a relationship for a good deal of time, you just can't walk away. First and foremost you may have a family to consider. Most of us are not millionaires, and like it or not you must be practical. You have responsibilities that have to be taken care of and even though you are hurting so very much you must not do any thing rash.

I know people do not like to link money in any way with love, but be realistic it is.
We just can't day through the bum out, like the celebrities and sports stars do. Most of us are hard working middle class people with homes and cars that need payments. We may have children and we need heath insurance and so many more important things to consider, and most revolve around finances.

So when your good intentioned family and friends all say you should through the bum out and never see him again is not very realistic. You also may still love the person very much, and may not want to end your relationship until you have exhausted all other possibilities.


You must take all the time in the world, and not rush into anything immediately. What ever you do it has to be your choice.

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