How He Cheated On You

How he cheated on you is the number one question you need to ask. Then you at least will know if there is any chance at all to save this relationship.

Because believe it or not there are degrees of cheating, and some are much harder to forgive, if you even wanted to try.

Most affairs involve only one woman and usually have deep feeling maybe even love associated with them. Just because this kind of cheating does usually come with some deep feeling between the two people involved, does not mean that your relationship has to automatically end. With a lot of communication between you and him about why and how this could happen, you may be able to repair the damage that has been done to you and your relationship. Many times when two people start talking about all the feeling they are having about each other at this time, it opens the flood gates of emotions that have been just below the surface for the both of you for a long time now.

One night stands are often a big mistake, that almost always have alcohol involved. One night stands also can happen if he is traveling for work and happens to spend the night out of town. When these kind of things happen, and he is otherwise a very decent man, he is usually full of tremendous guilt and remorse for his actions. More often then not, when this kind of infidelity happens in the relationship, there is a very good chance that you can recover from this awful and hurtful act that he has committed. With counseling and time, and naturally a promise that this will never happen again. Of course what ever action you decide on is always up to you and you should never feel pressured to either stay and reconcile with him or separate and end your relationship with him.

If your situation is the many women scenario, that maybe be the hardest one of all to even contemplate any kind of forgiveness or reconciliation. It has no valid excuse at all for happening. It show a person who is completely selfish and self serving. Its all about him and his pleasures, and the heck withhow any one else may feel. Its pretty hard to try and give any recommendations for staying with this kind of man.

It goes without saying that any kind of infidelity in a relationship is the most hurtful and just plain devastating that a supposed love one could do to you. Its just helpful to be able to kind of categorize the degrees of cheating. They are certainly different in why they happen and can the relationship be saved.

If possible try and take a step back from the problem for a moment, and examine closely every factor of what happened and is this a relationship that can be repaired. But remember what step you decide to take has to be the best for you and only you. For once put yourself first and remember this is the time in your life when you must consider only yourself and your happiness.

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Dealing With Betrayal

Your going along with your life, feeling like everything is doing pretty good. You have a loving mate and a nice home life and you feel pretty content. Then without any notice at all your whole life is in complete shambles.

You find out which could only by described as one of the most terrible, hurtful embarrassing and possibly the most devastating news any person could hear. Your husband, mate, boyfriend and lover has cheated on you.

Your life in seconds has completely changed forever. Your happy and content home life has been destroyed. You can't think, or eat or sleep. Your work and social life suffer. Your family and friends all think they know what is right for you. Everyone has an opinion on what you should do. People are coming at you from all directions with advice and telling you how to live your life.

This is what happens when a loved one cheats on you. One of the worst things about betrayal is when it happens it seems everyone finds out about it. Naturally they all want to put in their 2cents worth.

What you need to do, is politely but firmly tell everyone to please let you first come to terms to what has happened to your life. Then to please let you decide for yourself what it best for your situation.

It is a terrible thing that has happened, but it doesn't automatically mean you either have to or want to end your relationship. This is hard for our family and friends to understand.

When you have been in a relationship for a good deal of time, you just can't walk away. First and foremost you may have a family to consider. Most of us are not millionaires, and like it or not you must be practical. You have responsibilities that have to be taken care of and even though you are hurting so very much you must not do any thing rash.

I know people do not like to link money in any way with love, but be realistic it is.
We just can't day through the bum out, like the celebrities and sports stars do. Most of us are hard working middle class people with homes and cars that need payments. We may have children and we need heath insurance and so many more important things to consider, and most revolve around finances.

So when your good intentioned family and friends all say you should through the bum out and never see him again is not very realistic. You also may still love the person very much, and may not want to end your relationship until you have exhausted all other possibilities.


You must take all the time in the world, and not rush into anything immediately. What ever you do it has to be your choice.

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